Fusebox <![CDATA[Empowered with Immigrant Parents]]> Are you juggling the weight of caring for your immigrant parents while also living out your dreams? Are you finding yourself stuck in negative self-talk, guilt, fear, burnout, or resentment?

If so, you're not alone. I get it.

I've been there.
 
But here’s the thing: you don’t have to choose between your goals, ambitions, and caring for your loved ones. This podcast is your guide to empower yourself to thrive in both worlds - so that you can take care of yourself AND your loved ones in ways that work for you.
 
The pressure to be the best version of yourself, to give your family everything they need, and to chase your own dreams… it’s real. But you don’t have to do it alone.

I’m Allison Ly — a fellow adult child of immigrant parents here as your coach and host. I have a background in mental health therapy and have worked with adults with immigrant parents, or individuals with immigrant backgrounds for 10+ years.  

In this podcast, I’m going to give you practical tips, relatable stories, and the tools to navigate the unique challenges of being an adult with immigrant parents. 

You’ll learn how to show up for yourself, your career, and your relationships in ways that feel authentic, without feeling like you’re losing yourself in the process.

Let's leave the negative self-talk, self-doubt, and self-sacrifice patterns behind so that you can start to unlock your fullest potential.

If you’re ready to feel even more empowered, and confident, and show up as the best version of yourself - while still giving back to those you love hit subscribe to start to unlock your fullest potential.
 
Check out my website: www.heyallisonly.com 
]]> Are you juggling the weight of caring for your immigrant parents while also living out your dreams? Are you finding yourself stuck in negative self-talk, guilt, fear, burnout, or resentment?

If so, you're not alone. I get it.

I've been there.
 
But here’s the thing: you don’t have to choose between your goals, ambitions, and caring for your loved ones. This podcast is your guide to empower yourself to thrive in both worlds - so that you can take care of yourself AND your loved ones in ways that work for you.
 
The pressure to be the best version of yourself, to give your family everything they need, and to chase your own dreams… it’s real. But you don’t have to do it alone.

I’m Allison Ly — a fellow adult child of immigrant parents here as your coach and host. I have a background in mental health therapy and have worked with adults with immigrant parents, or individuals with immigrant backgrounds for 10+ years.  

In this podcast, I’m going to give you practical tips, relatable stories, and the tools to navigate the unique challenges of being an adult with immigrant parents. 

You’ll learn how to show up for yourself, your career, and your relationships in ways that feel authentic, without feeling like you’re losing yourself in the process.

Let's leave the negative self-talk, self-doubt, and self-sacrifice patterns behind so that you can start to unlock your fullest potential.

If you’re ready to feel even more empowered, and confident, and show up as the best version of yourself - while still giving back to those you love hit subscribe to start to unlock your fullest potential.
 
Check out my website: www.heyallisonly.com 
]]> en-us false https://www.heyallisonly.com/ <![CDATA[Welcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents]]> fbx/be83eb82-f275-11ef-9759-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Sun, 23 Feb 2025 22:08:19 -0800 00. Trailer&nbsp;Are you juggling the weight of caring for your immigrant parents while also living out your dreams? Are you finding yourself stuck in negative self-talk, guilt, fear, burn out or resentment?If so, you're not alone. I get it.I've been there.But here’s the thing: you don’t have to choose between your goals, ambitions and caring for your loved ones. This podcast is your guide to empower yourself to thrive in both worlds - so that you can take care of yourself AND your loved ones in ways that work for you.The pressure to be the best version of yourself, to give your family everything they need, and to chase your own dreams… it’s real. But you don’t have to do it alone.I’m Allison Ly— a fellow adult child of immigrant parents here as your coach and host. I have a background in mental health therapy and have worked with adults with immigrant parents, or individuals with immigrant backgrounds for 10+ years. &nbsp;In this podcast, I’m going to give you practical tips, relatable stories, and the tools to navigate the unique challenges of being an adult with immigrant parents.&nbsp;You’ll learn how to show up for yourself, your career, and your relationships in ways that feel authentic, without feeling like you’re losing yourself in the process.Let's leave the negative self talk, the self-doubt and self-sacrifice patterns behind so that you can start to unlock your fullest potential.If you’re ready to feel even more empowered, confident, and show up as the best version of yourself - while still giving back to those you love hit subscribe to start to unlock your fullest potential. 00. Trailer 

Are you juggling the weight of caring for your immigrant parents while also living out your dreams? Are you finding yourself stuck in negative self-talk, guilt, fear, burn out or resentment?

If so, you're not alone. I get it.

I've been there.

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to choose between your goals, ambitions and caring for your loved ones. This podcast is your guide to empower yourself to thrive in both worlds - so that you can take care of yourself AND your loved ones in ways that work for you.

The pressure to be the best version of yourself, to give your family everything they need, and to chase your own dreams… it’s real. But you don’t have to do it alone.

I’m Allison Ly— a fellow adult child of immigrant parents here as your coach and host. I have a background in mental health therapy and have worked with adults with immigrant parents, or individuals with immigrant backgrounds for 10+ years.  

In this podcast, I’m going to give you practical tips, relatable stories, and the tools to navigate the unique challenges of being an adult with immigrant parents. 

You’ll learn how to show up for yourself, your career, and your relationships in ways that feel authentic, without feeling like you’re losing yourself in the process.

Let's leave the negative self talk, the self-doubt and self-sacrifice patterns behind so that you can start to unlock your fullest potential.

If you’re ready to feel even more empowered, confident, and show up as the best version of yourself - while still giving back to those you love hit subscribe to start to unlock your fullest potential.
]]> 139 false 1 trailer <![CDATA[Quiet Your Inner Critic: 5 Reminders All Adults with Immigrant Parents Need]]> fbx/1621350c-02c0-11f0-81ba-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 29 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0700 Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be WhyHow Guilt &amp; Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone. In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background.&nbsp;This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships.&nbsp;Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!📥 Want the visual? Grab the free PDF of the Repay Cycle here → [Insert Link]Episode Timeline:00:00 Introduction and Overview01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important&nbsp;02:43 Phase 105:42 Phase 208:17 Phase 309:54 Phase 415:17 Breaking the Cycle16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episodeShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4___Free Resources:Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Why

How Guilt & Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™

If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone.

In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. 

This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.

We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships. 

Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.
Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.

Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!

📥 Want the visual? Grab the free PDF of the Repay Cycle here → [Insert Link]

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important 
02:43 Phase 1
05:42 Phase 2
08:17 Phase 3
09:54 Phase 4
15:17 Breaking the Cycle
16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episode

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4
___

Free Resources:
Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource


]]> 1034 false 3 full <![CDATA[Navigating Two Worlds with Immigrant Parents | What to Expect | Intro]]> fbx/30b1888a-02c1-11f0-bc1f-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 29 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0700 Episode 2 - Navigating Two Worlds with Immigrant Parents | What to Expect | IntroWelcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents Podcast!I’m so excited to introduce you to the heart behind this podcast: a place where adults with immigrant parents can feel seen, supported, and empowered.We’ll talk about what inspired this show, who it’s for, what you can expect moving forward and I’ll leave you with five powerful affirmations to carry with you as we begin this journey together.If you’ve ever felt stuck balancing your own dreams while caring for your family, this space is for you. You're not alone and you're not wrong for feeling the way you do. 🫶Episode Timeline:00:00 – Introduction: Why I created this podcast01:45 – Why This Podcast Exists: The conversations we didn't grow up having04:15 – Who This Podcast Is For: Adults with immigrant parents feeling stuck, guilty, or burnt out06:30 – What You Can Expect: Topics we'll dive into (boundaries, perfectionism, imposter syndrome &amp; more)08:00 – About Me: My Chinese Vietnamese background and personal story10:15 – Important Disclaimer: This podcast is informational, not therapy11:00 – First Pep Talk: The Five Most Important Affirmations to Remember13:00 – Next Episode: Why These 5 Affirmations&nbsp;Shownotes and more at: heyallisonly.com/podcast/2---Follow Allison on Instagram: instagram.com/heyallisonlySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self TalkGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved OnesAllison's Website: heyallisonly.comSubscribe to embark on this empowering journey together! Episode 2 - Navigating Two Worlds with Immigrant Parents | What to Expect | Intro

Welcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents Podcast!

I’m so excited to introduce you to the heart behind this podcast: a place where adults with immigrant parents can feel seen, supported, and empowered.

We’ll talk about what inspired this show, who it’s for, what you can expect moving forward and I’ll leave you with five powerful affirmations to carry with you as we begin this journey together.

If you’ve ever felt stuck balancing your own dreams while caring for your family, this space is for you. You're not alone and you're not wrong for feeling the way you do. 🫶

Episode Timeline:
00:00 – Introduction: Why I created this podcast
01:45 – Why This Podcast Exists: The conversations we didn't grow up having
04:15 – Who This Podcast Is For: Adults with immigrant parents feeling stuck, guilty, or burnt out
06:30 – What You Can Expect: Topics we'll dive into (boundaries, perfectionism, imposter syndrome & more)
08:00 – About Me: My Chinese Vietnamese background and personal story
10:15 – Important Disclaimer: This podcast is informational, not therapy
11:00 – First Pep Talk: The Five Most Important Affirmations to Remember
13:00 – Next Episode: Why These 5 Affirmations 

Shownotes and more at: heyallisonly.com/podcast/2

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Follow Allison on Instagram: instagram.com/heyallisonly


Allison's Website: heyallisonly.com

Subscribe to embark on this empowering journey together!
]]> 1044 false 2 full <![CDATA[Why You Might Guilty No Matter What You Do]]> fbx/c5bb5ae0-0cf4-11f0-b17f-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 06 May 2025 08:00:00 -0700 Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be WhyHow Guilt &amp; Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone.&nbsp;In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships.&nbsp;Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!📥 Want the visual? Grab the recap and more of the Repay Cycle in a PDF here → heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repayEpisode Timeline:&nbsp;00:00 Intro of The Repay Cycle™01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important&nbsp;02:43 Phase 105:42 Phase 208:17 Phase 309:54 Phase 415:17 Breaking the Cycle16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episodeShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4___Free Resources:The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF:heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repaySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:&nbsp;https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Why

How Guilt & Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™

If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone. 

In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.

We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships. 

Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.

Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.
Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!

📥 Want the visual? Grab the recap and more of the Repay Cycle in a PDF here → heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay

Episode Timeline: 
00:00 Intro of The Repay Cycle™
01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important 
02:43 Phase 1
05:42 Phase 2
08:17 Phase 3
09:54 Phase 4
15:17 Breaking the Cycle
16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episode

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4
___

Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF:
heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay

Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: 
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource]]> 1073 false 4 full <![CDATA[Say "No" More: The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3]]> fbx/0298f878-0cf5-11f0-8dd5-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 13 May 2025 07:00:00 -0700 Why It’s So Hard to Say "No" as Adults with Immigrant ParentsEpisode 5: Your Values or Your Family's? The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3Are you constantly giving, helping, and sacrificing—yet still feel guilty or that you're not doing enough? You’re not alone. In this episode, we go deeper into the Repay Cycle™ and explore why these emotional patterns run so deep for adults with immigrant parents.We talk about:- The impact of parentification (when you were the “responsible one” way too early)- What happens when we don’t understand why we keep saying yes- The pressure of navigating two cultures and conflicting expectations- How to identify your own values—separate from what you were told to wantPlus, I’ll walk you through a visual tool to help you figure out what you truly want vs. what your family expects from you. If you’ve ever felt torn, overwhelmed, or stuck in a loop of obligation, this is for you.📥 Want the visual?&nbsp;Grab the visual here → https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/values🎧 Listen now and take one step closer to clarity, confidence, and self-trust.Episode Timeline:00:00 Recap of The Repay Cycle™ (Part 1)01:14 Understanding The Repay Cycle™02:00 What’s Parentification Got to Do with It?03:37 Balancing Cultural Expectations06:52 Identifying Personal Values09:54 Resource for youShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/5____Free Resources:The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repaySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource Why It’s So Hard to Say "No" as Adults with Immigrant Parents

Episode 5: Your Values or Your Family's? The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3

Are you constantly giving, helping, and sacrificing—yet still feel guilty or that you're not doing enough? You’re not alone. In this episode, we go deeper into the Repay Cycle™ and explore why these emotional patterns run so deep for adults with immigrant parents.

We talk about:
- The impact of parentification (when you were the “responsible one” way too early)
- What happens when we don’t understand why we keep saying yes
- The pressure of navigating two cultures and conflicting expectations
- How to identify your own values—separate from what you were told to want

Plus, I’ll walk you through a visual tool to help you figure out what you truly want vs. what your family expects from you. If you’ve ever felt torn, overwhelmed, or stuck in a loop of obligation, this is for you.

📥 Want the visual? 
Grab the visual here → https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/values

🎧 Listen now and take one step closer to clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Recap of The Repay Cycle™ (Part 1)
01:14 Understanding The Repay Cycle™
02:00 What’s Parentification Got to Do with It?
03:37 Balancing Cultural Expectations
06:52 Identifying Personal Values
09:54 Resource for you

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/5
____
Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay

Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource]]> 642 false 5 full <![CDATA[Beat Burnout: How to Protect Your Energy (The Repay Cycle™ Part 3 of 3)]]> fbx/47ba24d6-0cf5-11f0-8df6-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 20 May 2025 06:00:00 -0700 Quick tools to beat burnout! How to Protect Your Energy When You’re Always the One Helping&nbsp;Episode 6: Exhausted from Caring Too Much? Fix Burnout with These Tips (The Repay Cycle™ Part 3 of 3)If you’re constantly helping others—especially your immigrant parents—but feel burnt out, overwhelmed, or feel like cutting ties is the only way for you to get some peace, this episode is for you.&nbsp;Learn to alleviate emotional fatigue, prioritize self-care, and set effective boundaries without cutting ties with your loved ones.In Part 3, the final part of The Repay Cycle™ series, Allison Ly shares simple yet powerful ways to protect your energy without giving up your values or your relationships.&nbsp;Learn how to make mindful choices, reduce resentment, and create space to care for yourself too. Listen as Allison shares&nbsp; practical steps to recognizing your values, prioritizing urgent tasks, and incorporating enjoyable activities to reduce stress.What You’ll Learn:- A practical tool to track your emotional and energy levels- How to decide what’s urgent vs. important in family requests- Ways to align your actions with your values so you feel less guilt- Small shifts that make a big difference in how you show up for yourself and others- The foundation for setting boundaries without feeling selfishResources Mentioned:&nbsp;📄 Download visuals &amp; PDFs: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast&nbsp;💻 Learn about 1:1 coaching &amp; Unshaken Confidence: https://heyallisonly.comSubscribe &amp; Follow to stay updated with each new episode!Episode Timeline:00:00 What to do when in The Repay Cycle™01:38 Understanding Your Energy Levels05:02 Reflecting on Your Values08:07 Prioritizing and Setting Boundaries13:59 Practical Tips for Self-Care15:21 Why This is Important For YouShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/6____Free Resources:The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repaySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource Quick tools to beat burnout! How to Protect Your Energy When You’re Always the One Helping 

Episode 6: Exhausted from Caring Too Much? Fix Burnout with These Tips (The Repay Cycle™ Part 3 of 3)

If you’re constantly helping others—especially your immigrant parents—but feel burnt out, overwhelmed, or feel like cutting ties is the only way for you to get some peace, this episode is for you. 

Learn to alleviate emotional fatigue, prioritize self-care, and set effective boundaries without cutting ties with your loved ones.

In Part 3, the final part of The Repay Cycle™ series, Allison Ly shares simple yet powerful ways to protect your energy without giving up your values or your relationships. 

Learn how to make mindful choices, reduce resentment, and create space to care for yourself too. Listen as Allison shares  practical steps to recognizing your values, prioritizing urgent tasks, and incorporating enjoyable activities to reduce stress.

What You’ll Learn:
- A practical tool to track your emotional and energy levels
- How to decide what’s urgent vs. important in family requests
- Ways to align your actions with your values so you feel less guilt
- Small shifts that make a big difference in how you show up for yourself and others
- The foundation for setting boundaries without feeling selfish

Resources Mentioned:
 📄 Download visuals & PDFs: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast
 💻 Learn about 1:1 coaching & Unshaken Confidence: https://heyallisonly.com
Subscribe & Follow to stay updated with each new episode!

Episode Timeline:
00:00 What to do when in The Repay Cycle™
01:38 Understanding Your Energy Levels
05:02 Reflecting on Your Values
08:07 Prioritizing and Setting Boundaries
13:59 Practical Tips for Self-Care
15:21 Why This is Important For You

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/6
____
Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay

Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource


]]> 989 false 6 full <![CDATA[What No One Tells You About Setting Boundaries]]> fbx/7e3df1e4-0cf6-11f0-b87d-16a2cd1ac1f8 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 27 May 2025 06:00:00 -0700 What Lending a Sweater Can Teach You About BoundariesEpisode 7: The Truth About Boundaries: What No One Tells YouMany of us overlook these facts about setting boundaries - and this is detrimental to your relationships. It affects your relationship with yourself and with others.&nbsp;Tune in as Allison Ly dives into some myths and facts about boundaries so that you can shift your mindset about boundaries, and start to use them more effectively and with less guilt.&nbsp;Listen in on why boundaries are not one-size-fits-all and why they don’t need to be rigid to be effective. Especially as adults with immigrant parents, boundary-setting can bring up discomfort, fear of being misunderstood, and the pressure to keep the peace. But here's the truth: boundaries are necessary, and they change all the time - making this a lifelong skill you’ll always improve upon.You’ll hear how boundaries show up in everyday moments - yes, even in lending out a sweater!. And what lessons lending a sweater can teach us about how to think about boundaries.&nbsp;If you haven’t been able to set boundaries or even think about HOW to set boundaries because you’re feeling stuck between your needs and your family’s expectations, this episode will help you shift your mindset, get curious (not judgmental), and start practicing boundaries with more confidence, compassion, and clarity.🎧 Tune in to learn:- What a boundary really is (it’s more than just saying no)- How to communicate them when you’re not used to doing it- Why discomfort isn’t a sign to stop—it’s necessary- The role boundaries play in protecting your energy, peace, and relationshipsAnd if you’re wanting more support on this so that you can start to enjoy more of your relationships with less overthinking and less guilt, check out ways to work with me:- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/&nbsp;- Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love.&nbsp;https://www.heyallisonly.com/course&nbsp;Episode Timeline:00:00 Why talk about Boundaries00:59 Defining Boundaries03:30 Misconceptions About Boundaries04:20 Why It’s So Complicated06:40 Adapting Boundaries Over Time07:04 Examples of How to Set Boundaries12:06 The Most Important Piece15:05 What Now?Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/7____Free Resources:Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource What Lending a Sweater Can Teach You About Boundaries

Episode 7: The Truth About Boundaries: What No One Tells You

Many of us overlook these facts about setting boundaries - and this is detrimental to your relationships. It affects your relationship with yourself and with others. 

Tune in as Allison Ly dives into some myths and facts about boundaries so that you can shift your mindset about boundaries, and start to use them more effectively and with less guilt. 

Listen in on why boundaries are not one-size-fits-all and why they don’t need to be rigid to be effective. Especially as adults with immigrant parents, boundary-setting can bring up discomfort, fear of being misunderstood, and the pressure to keep the peace. But here's the truth: boundaries are necessary, and they change all the time - making this a lifelong skill you’ll always improve upon.

You’ll hear how boundaries show up in everyday moments - yes, even in lending out a sweater!. And what lessons lending a sweater can teach us about how to think about boundaries. 

If you haven’t been able to set boundaries or even think about HOW to set boundaries because you’re feeling stuck between your needs and your family’s expectations, this episode will help you shift your mindset, get curious (not judgmental), and start practicing boundaries with more confidence, compassion, and clarity.

🎧 Tune in to learn:
- What a boundary really is (it’s more than just saying no)
- How to communicate them when you’re not used to doing it
- Why discomfort isn’t a sign to stop—it’s necessary
- The role boundaries play in protecting your energy, peace, and relationships

And if you’re wanting more support on this so that you can start to enjoy more of your relationships with less overthinking and less guilt, check out ways to work with me:

- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ 
- Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. 
https://www.heyallisonly.com/course 

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Why talk about Boundaries
00:59 Defining Boundaries
03:30 Misconceptions About Boundaries
04:20 Why It’s So Complicated
06:40 Adapting Boundaries Over Time
07:04 Examples of How to Set Boundaries
12:06 The Most Important Piece
15:05 What Now?

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/7
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Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource]]> 981 false 7 full <![CDATA[It's Not Your Fault: Why Adults with Immigrant Parents Struggle to Take Up Space]]> fbx/89d58f22-400d-11f0-8f41-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 03 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0700 Episode 08: Why Adults with Immigrant Parents Struggle to Take Up Space&nbsp;Ever find it hard to take up space — to speak up, ask for what you need, or even just exist fully in a room? You’re not alone.&nbsp;In this episode, Allison Ly breaks down why it can feel especially challenging for adults with immigrant parents to take up space, whether that’s emotionally, mentally, or physically.Allison walks through some of the biggest reasons adults with immigrant parents, like you, face that complicate self-expression, and the impact of not seeing yourself represented growing up. She also shares how survival mode can keep you from even thinking about taking up more space — and why none of this is your fault.Get a powerful reflection prompt to help you notice what’s getting in the way of you taking up space.Tune in to understand these complexities and learn how to begin advocating for yourself.If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:Let’s do some 1:1 coaching:&nbsp;https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/&nbsp;Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love.&nbsp;https://www.heyallisonly.com/course&nbsp;Episode Timeline:00:00 Do You Take Up Space?00:14 Why It's Hard for Adults with Immigrant Parents to Take Up Space01:47 Cultural and Language Barriers04:44 Media Representation and Its Impact07:01 External Factors Impacting Ability to Take Up Space10:21 Question for You&nbsp;Get the visual mentioned and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/8____Sign up to get actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents, in my free email community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk (Free Training): https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start Episode 08: Why Adults with Immigrant Parents Struggle to Take Up Space 

Ever find it hard to take up space — to speak up, ask for what you need, or even just exist fully in a room? You’re not alone. 

In this episode, Allison Ly breaks down why it can feel especially challenging for adults with immigrant parents to take up space, whether that’s emotionally, mentally, or physically.

Allison walks through some of the biggest reasons adults with immigrant parents, like you, face that complicate self-expression, and the impact of not seeing yourself represented growing up. She also shares how survival mode can keep you from even thinking about taking up more space — and why none of this is your fault.

Get a powerful reflection prompt to help you notice what’s getting in the way of you taking up space.
Tune in to understand these complexities and learn how to begin advocating for yourself.

If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:
Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: 
https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ 

Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. 
https://www.heyallisonly.com/course 

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Do You Take Up Space?
00:14 Why It's Hard for Adults with Immigrant Parents to Take Up Space
01:47 Cultural and Language Barriers
04:44 Media Representation and Its Impact
07:01 External Factors Impacting Ability to Take Up Space
10:21 Question for You 

Get the visual mentioned and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/8
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3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk (Free Training): https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start]]> 749 false 8 full <![CDATA[3 Ways to Feel Less Guilt (and Take Up Space)]]> fbx/f9d09a80-44b6-11f0-abe5-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 10 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0700 Episode 09: 3 Ways to Take Up Space Without Guilt: 3 Thoughts to ChallengeIn Part 2 of our conversation about taking up space, we’re diving into the real thoughts that hold adults with immigrant parents back — and how to challenge them so you can live more fully and authentically.If you've ever found yourself thinking:- “I should be grateful and not ask for more.”- “I'm asking for too much.”- “What will people think if I speak up?”...then this episode is for you.We’ll break down how you can start taking up space in small ways that will feel good to you — without guilt, fear, or overwhelm.&nbsp;In this episode, you’ll learn:- Why gratitude and ambition can coexist- How to reframe "asking for too much"- Why you don’t have to guess what others are thinking- Practical ways to practice taking up space — starting small- How knowing your values helps you advocate for yourselfTaking up space isn’t about abandoning your family or your culture — it’s about showing up for you and caring for others without losing yourself.If you’re ready to stop feeling burnt out and start living more aligned with who you truly are, listen in. 💛Episodes Mentioned:Part 1 of 3. The Repay Cycle™ in Immigrant Families. Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Whyhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYxHiBoa3xUPart 1 of 2 on Taking Up Space. It’s Not Your Fault: Why It’s Hard for Adults with Immigrant Parents to Take Up Spacehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66uqkLMYHYw&nbsp;If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/&nbsp;- Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence: https://www.heyallisonly.com/course&nbsp;A program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. &nbsp; Episode 09: 3 Ways to Take Up Space Without Guilt: 3 Thoughts to Challenge

In Part 2 of our conversation about taking up space, we’re diving into the real thoughts that hold adults with immigrant parents back — and how to challenge them so you can live more fully and authentically.

If you've ever found yourself thinking:

- “I should be grateful and not ask for more.”
- “I'm asking for too much.”
- “What will people think if I speak up?”

...then this episode is for you.

We’ll break down how you can start taking up space in small ways that will feel good to you — without guilt, fear, or overwhelm. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why gratitude and ambition can coexist
- How to reframe "asking for too much"
- Why you don’t have to guess what others are thinking
- Practical ways to practice taking up space — starting small
- How knowing your values helps you advocate for yourself

Taking up space isn’t about abandoning your family or your culture — it’s about showing up for you and caring for others without losing yourself.
If you’re ready to stop feeling burnt out and start living more aligned with who you truly are, listen in. 💛

Episodes Mentioned:
Part 1 of 3. The Repay Cycle™ in Immigrant Families. Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Why
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYxHiBoa3xU

Part 1 of 2 on Taking Up Space. It’s Not Your Fault: Why It’s Hard for Adults with Immigrant Parents to Take Up Space
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66uqkLMYHYw 

If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:

- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ 

- Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence: https://www.heyallisonly.com/course 
A program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love.  ]]> 1365 false 9 full <![CDATA[You Always Have a Choice - Are You Taking Them?]]> fbx/6ef40e14-4fac-11f0-9ddd-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 24 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0700 Episode 10: How to Shift Your Mindset in Everyday Moments🎧 Empowered with Immigrant Parents Podcast with Allison LyGotta show up even when its not perfect! Apologies for the grid linesFeeling stuck doing something you really don’t want to do for yourself or for your parents? Maybe you are running an annoying errand or have to help your parents with something you don't really want to do.In this episode, Allison Ly shares how even in those moments, you still have a choice. She walks through a real-life story (complete with boba, sunshine, and boundaries!) to show how small shifts in your mindset and preparation can completely change how you experience a frustrating day.This episode is perfect for adults with immigrant parents who feel like they’re always “on,” always giving, and rarely taking time to center their own needs. Learn how to:&nbsp;✔ Reframe negative thoughts&nbsp;✔ Set small, realistic boundaries with yourself&nbsp;✔ Use thought work to feel more grounded&nbsp;✔ Make space for yourself—even during life’s errands and responsibilitiesYou don’t have to wait for life to slow down; you can choose how you show up, even in the chaos.👇 If this resonated with you, hit subscribe, share with a friend, and let me know in the comments: What’s one small choice you can make today to care for yourself?____ If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. https://www.heyallisonly.com/course Episode Timeline:00:00 The Power of Choice00:25 Welcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents00:36 A Personal Story01:48 Making the Most of Your Time03:25 The Importance of Mindset and Preparation04:55 Practical Tips for Self-Care and Flexibility07:37 Empower Yourself with Choices08:46 Final Thoughts and EncouragementShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/10____Free Resources:Sign up to get actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents, in my email community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email Episode 10: How to Shift Your Mindset in Everyday Moments

🎧 Empowered with Immigrant Parents Podcast with Allison Ly

Gotta show up even when its not perfect! Apologies for the grid lines

Feeling stuck doing something you really don’t want to do for yourself or for your parents?
Maybe you are running an annoying errand or have to help your parents with something you don't really want to do.

In this episode, Allison Ly shares how even in those moments, you still have a choice.

She walks through a real-life story (complete with boba, sunshine, and boundaries!) to show how small shifts in your mindset and preparation can completely change how you experience a frustrating day.

This episode is perfect for adults with immigrant parents who feel like they’re always “on,” always giving, and rarely taking time to center their own needs.

Learn how to:
 ✔ Reframe negative thoughts
 ✔ Set small, realistic boundaries with yourself
 ✔ Use thought work to feel more grounded
 ✔ Make space for yourself—even during life’s errands and responsibilities

You don’t have to wait for life to slow down; you can choose how you show up, even in the chaos.

👇 If this resonated with you, hit subscribe, share with a friend, and let me know in the comments: What’s one small choice you can make today to care for yourself?

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If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:
Let’s do some 1:1 coaching:
https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/

Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love.
https://www.heyallisonly.com/course

Episode Timeline:
00:00 The Power of Choice
00:25 Welcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents
00:36 A Personal Story
01:48 Making the Most of Your Time
03:25 The Importance of Mindset and Preparation
04:55 Practical Tips for Self-Care and Flexibility
07:37 Empower Yourself with Choices
08:46 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/10
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Free Resources:
Sign up to get actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents, in my email community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email

]]> 621 false 10 full <![CDATA[Just Do It, Imperfectly]]> fbx/cfe7f752-c43d-11f0-9adb-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 18 Nov 2025 00:30:00 -0800 Ep. 11: Showing Up Imperfectly: My First Episode Back After Maternity LeaveI’m back! Imperfect and all!This episode is about showing up without waiting for the perfect conditions.After maternity leave, and with the transition from one kid to two, I took a longer break than planned. And honestly? I needed it. But I also needed to break the pattern of waiting until things feel perfect before coming back.So here I am… recording on my phone, holding a mic, in the middle of real life.Because adults with immigrant parents?We know how to show up even when things aren’t perfect. We’ve been doing it our whole lives.Inside this candid solo episode, I talk about:✔ The perfectionism and hypervigilance we carry as adults with immigrant parents✔ Why so many of us feel the need to be prepared, planned, and organized before we even start something… and how that pressure follows us into adulthood, motherhood, career, everything.✔ Doing things imperfectly,&nbsp; and why it matters for our healing✔&nbsp; Finding joy again when you’re in survival mode✔ Simple ways to bring back things you loved as a kid (like reading!) without needing to be perfect, fast, or productive about it.✔ Why asking for help is still so hard, but necessary!🎧 If you’re an adult with immigrant parents who struggles with perfectionism, pressure, or putting your needs last… this episode is for you.Whether you’re returning from a life transition or trying to start something you’ve been putting off, I hope this conversation reminds you: You don’t have to do it perfectly for it to matter.More from Allison:Instagram:&nbsp; @heyallisonly &nbsp;Website: https://heyallisonly.comFree Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet&nbsp;3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start&nbsp;Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource&nbsp;Join My Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.com/email&nbsp;If you want weekly stories, tools, and conversations created just for adults with immigrant parents, join my email list. It’s the best place to send me your questions, episode ideas, or share what resonated.Show notes and more:&nbsp;https://www.heyallisonly.com/podcast/11&nbsp; Ep. 11: Showing Up Imperfectly: My First Episode Back After Maternity Leave

I’m back! Imperfect and all!

This episode is about showing up without waiting for the perfect conditions.

After maternity leave, and with the transition from one kid to two, I took a longer break than planned. And honestly? I needed it. But I also needed to break the pattern of waiting until things feel perfect before coming back.

So here I am… recording on my phone, holding a mic, in the middle of real life.

Because adults with immigrant parents?

We know how to show up even when things aren’t perfect. We’ve been doing it our whole lives.

Inside this candid solo episode, I talk about:
✔ The perfectionism and hypervigilance we carry as adults with immigrant parents
✔ Why so many of us feel the need to be prepared, planned, and organized before we even start something… and how that pressure follows us into adulthood, motherhood, career, everything.
✔ Doing things imperfectly,  and why it matters for our healing
✔  Finding joy again when you’re in survival mode
✔ Simple ways to bring back things you loved as a kid (like reading!) without needing to be perfect, fast, or productive about it.
✔ Why asking for help is still so hard, but necessary!

🎧 If you’re an adult with immigrant parents who struggles with perfectionism, pressure, or putting your needs last… this episode is for you.

Whether you’re returning from a life transition or trying to start something you’ve been putting off, I hope this conversation reminds you: You don’t have to do it perfectly for it to matter.

More from Allison:
Instagram:  @heyallisonly  
Website: https://heyallisonly.com

Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Join My Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.com/email 
If you want weekly stories, tools, and conversations created just for adults with immigrant parents, join my email list. It’s the best place to send me your questions, episode ideas, or share what resonated.

Show notes and more: 
https://www.heyallisonly.com/podcast/11 ]]> 876 false 11 full <![CDATA[Breaking Perfect with Chris Oeurn, Camera Operator]]> fbx/331d7bd0-c50b-11f0-b894-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 25 Nov 2025 00:30:00 -0800 Why to Stop Aiming for PerfectionEp. 12: Breaking Perfect featuring Chris Oeurn, Camera OperatorWant more like this? Join my adults with immigrant parents email community:&nbsp;https://heyallisonly.com/emailFeatured Guest:Chris Oeurn, Camera OperatorInstagram: @chrisoeurnWebsite: https://framingup.comThis episode "Breaking Perfect" is "perfect" for you if... you grew up with immigrant parents and relate to the following:&nbsp;- Feeling like you had/have to be perfect.- Feeling like you had to be grateful all the time- Feeling pressured to succeed because you “had it easier”.In this episode Chris Oeurn, a camera operator and fellow second generation adult shares about how Chris navigates the ideas of perfection, pressure, and imposter syndrome while building a successful career in the motion picture industry.Chris brings an honest, rare, behind the scenes look at what it means to navigate creative work, personal growth and cultural/societal expectations all at the same time.&nbsp;Whether or not you work in the motion picture industry, the stories, tips and tools are so relatable. Chris shares so many great insights that will help you rethink how you talk to yourself when things feel heavy.More from Allison:Instagram:&nbsp; @heyallisonly &nbsp;Website: https://heyallisonly.comFree Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet&nbsp;3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start&nbsp;Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource&nbsp;Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Myth of Perfection02:00 Why Perfection Feels Like Safety03:15 What We Tell Our Parents about Our Jobs06:00 The Surprising Mix of the Camera Operator Role08:00 The Pressure to not "mess up"12:00 Managing Imposter Syndrome17:00 Generational Trauma, Resilience, and Growth20:00 Tools for Success for High Achievers23:00 Why Doing More Isn’t Always the AnswerShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/12 Why to Stop Aiming for Perfection

Ep. 12: Breaking Perfect featuring Chris Oeurn, Camera Operator

Want more like this? Join my adults with immigrant parents email community: 
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Featured Guest:
Chris Oeurn, Camera Operator
Instagram: @chrisoeurn
Website: https://framingup.com

This episode "Breaking Perfect" is "perfect" for you if... you grew up with immigrant parents and relate to the following: 
- Feeling like you had/have to be perfect.
- Feeling like you had to be grateful all the time
- Feeling pressured to succeed because you “had it easier”.

In this episode Chris Oeurn, a camera operator and fellow second generation adult shares about how Chris navigates the ideas of perfection, pressure, and imposter syndrome while building a successful career in the motion picture industry.

Chris brings an honest, rare, behind the scenes look at what it means to navigate creative work, personal growth and cultural/societal expectations all at the same time. 

Whether or not you work in the motion picture industry, the stories, tips and tools are so relatable. Chris shares so many great insights that will help you rethink how you talk to yourself when things feel heavy.

More from Allison:
Instagram:  @heyallisonly  
Website: https://heyallisonly.com

Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Myth of Perfection
02:00 Why Perfection Feels Like Safety
03:15 What We Tell Our Parents about Our Jobs
06:00 The Surprising Mix of the Camera Operator Role
08:00 The Pressure to not "mess up"
12:00 Managing Imposter Syndrome
17:00 Generational Trauma, Resilience, and Growth
20:00 Tools for Success for High Achievers
23:00 Why Doing More Isn’t Always the Answer

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/12]]> 2721 false 12 full <![CDATA[Feel More Understood: The First Steps for Adults with Immigrant Parents]]> fbx/0946892a-d4d1-11f0-8f55-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Mon, 08 Dec 2025 23:37:03 -0800 How to Feel More Understood&nbsp;Ep. 13: First Steps to Feeling More Understood for Adults with Immigrant ParentsGet on Allison's Waitlist: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/listIn this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, I answer a listener question that so many of us think about.&nbsp;How do I feel more understood by the people closest to me?If you grew up in an immigrant household where speaking up felt uncomfortable or where your needs were not the focus, it makes sense that expressing yourself today feels hard. When we never got to practice choosing, sharing, or even noticing what we want, it becomes really difficult for others to understand us.I talk about the difference between being heard and being understood, why decision making can feel stressful for adults with immigrant parents, and what it looks like to slowly build the skill of naming your needs. I also offer a few simple everyday examples to help you notice where this shows up in your daily life and how you can begin shifting it.This conversation is for anyone who wants to feel more connected, more seen, and more confident in their relationships.&nbsp;If you have ever wondered why it feels so hard to explain what you need, this episode will help you understand where that comes from and what you can start practicing today.Episode Timeline:00:45 Listener Question: Feeling Understood01:09 Challenges in Immigrant Households02:09 The Importance of Self-Understanding04:18 Practicing This06:12 Understanding and Being Understood09:09 What to TryMore from Allison:Instagram:&nbsp; ⁨@heyallisonly⁩ &nbsp;Website: https://heyallisonly.comFree Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet&nbsp;3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start&nbsp;Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource&nbsp;Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/emailShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/13 How to Feel More Understood 

Ep. 13: First Steps to Feeling More Understood for Adults with Immigrant Parents

Get on Allison's Waitlist: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/list

In this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, I answer a listener question that so many of us think about. 

How do I feel more understood by the people closest to me?

If you grew up in an immigrant household where speaking up felt uncomfortable or where your needs were not the focus, it makes sense that expressing yourself today feels hard. When we never got to practice choosing, sharing, or even noticing what we want, it becomes really difficult for others to understand us.

I talk about the difference between being heard and being understood, why decision making can feel stressful for adults with immigrant parents, and what it looks like to slowly build the skill of naming your needs. I also offer a few simple everyday examples to help you notice where this shows up in your daily life and how you can begin shifting it.

This conversation is for anyone who wants to feel more connected, more seen, and more confident in their relationships. 

If you have ever wondered why it feels so hard to explain what you need, this episode will help you understand where that comes from and what you can start practicing today.

Episode Timeline:
00:45 Listener Question: Feeling Understood
01:09 Challenges in Immigrant Households
02:09 The Importance of Self-Understanding
04:18 Practicing This
06:12 Understanding and Being Understood
09:09 What to Try

More from Allison:
Instagram:  ⁨@heyallisonly⁩  
Website: https://heyallisonly.com

Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/13]]> 608 false 13 full <![CDATA[“I Feel Like I’m Failing My Parents”the Pressure Adult with Immigrant Parents Carry w/ Jay Razzouk]]> fbx/1d2a8c66-db0c-11f0-ad98-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Wed, 17 Dec 2025 00:30:00 -0800 EP. 14: Balancing Expectations: Navigating Life as a Second-Gen with Immigrant Parents with Jay Razzouk, Corporate Attorney and Co-Founder of ProSCALE LegalAllison Ly and Jay Razzouk delves into the multifaceted experiences of adults with immigrant parents.Featured Guest: Jay Razzouk Jay Razzouk is a corporate attorney and co-founder of ProSCALE LegalWebsite: https://www.avvo.com/attorneys/92408-ca-jay-razzouk-1908039.htmlLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayrazzoukFacebook: http://businesslegaltips.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayrazzoukHave you ever felt like you’re carrying an invisible job title in your family… with no training, no paycheck, and somehow you’re still expected to be “grateful” for it?In this episode, Allison is interviewed by Jay Razzouk (corporate attorney + co-founder of ProSCALE Legal) and we talk about the real weight a lot of adults with immigrant parents carry: being the interpreter, the fixer, the supporter, the responsible one… while trying to build your own life too.We get into what happens when you don’t name these roles (burnout, resentment, emotional exhaustion), and why learning boundaries + communication isn’t about becoming “selfish”… it’s about creating relationships you can actually stay in without abandoning yourself.Allison also shares personal experiences and offers strategies for setting boundaries and effective communication to maintain healthy familial relationships.If you’ve ever felt stuck between two cultures, two sets of expectations, and two truths at the same time, take a listen to this episode.(This episode was taken from when Allison was a guest on Jay Razzouk’s Business Legal Tips Group on Facebook; you can join that group here: http://businesslegaltips.com). More about Jay:Jay equips coaches, influencers, and mastermind leaders with the little-known legal strategies and paperwork that they don’t even know they need to scale to 7 figures and beyond. Like most people, Jay doesn’t like contracts. This is why he’s pioneering the “ProAct”™ – a turnkey framework-in-a-box designed to boost profits and build life-long relationships while protecting one’s legacy. 👉Join Jay’s Business Legal Tips group: http://businesslegaltips.com 👉Discover How to Avoid the 3 Big Costly Legal Mistakes Most Online Entrepreneurs Make: https://proscalelegal.com/gift Allison’s Free Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:00:00 The Invisible Role You’ve Been Carrying03:58 What Being “Second Gen” Really Means06:08 Family Expectations vs Your Life12:22 Boundaries Without Guilt14:59 The Real Cost of Keeping the Peace16:41 How This Quietly Affects You22:35 Why Boundaries Strengthen Relationships25:10 What Happens When You Don’t Set Boundaries33:05 What’s Really Under the Conflict34:36 Support for Adults with Immigrant ParentsShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/14 EP. 14: Balancing Expectations: Navigating Life as a Second-Gen with Immigrant Parents with Jay Razzouk, Corporate Attorney and Co-Founder of ProSCALE Legal

Allison Ly and Jay Razzouk delves into the multifaceted experiences of adults with immigrant parents.

Featured Guest: Jay Razzouk
Jay Razzouk is a corporate attorney and co-founder of ProSCALE Legal
Website: https://www.avvo.com/attorneys/92408-ca-jay-razzouk-1908039.html
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayrazzouk
Facebook: http://businesslegaltips.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayrazzouk

Have you ever felt like you’re carrying an invisible job title in your family… with no training, no paycheck, and somehow you’re still expected to be “grateful” for it?

In this episode, Allison is interviewed by Jay Razzouk (corporate attorney + co-founder of ProSCALE Legal) and we talk about the real weight a lot of adults with immigrant parents carry: being the interpreter, the fixer, the supporter, the responsible one… while trying to build your own life too.

We get into what happens when you don’t name these roles (burnout, resentment, emotional exhaustion), and why learning boundaries + communication isn’t about becoming “selfish”… it’s about creating relationships you can actually stay in without abandoning yourself.

Allison also shares personal experiences and offers strategies for setting boundaries and effective communication to maintain healthy familial relationships.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between two cultures, two sets of expectations, and two truths at the same time, take a listen to this episode.

(This episode was taken from when Allison was a guest on Jay Razzouk’s Business Legal Tips Group on Facebook; you can join that group here: http://businesslegaltips.com).

More about Jay:
Jay equips coaches, influencers, and mastermind leaders with the little-known legal strategies and paperwork that they don’t even know they need to scale to 7 figures and beyond. Like most people, Jay doesn’t like contracts. This is why he’s pioneering the “ProAct”™ – a turnkey framework-in-a-box designed to boost profits and build life-long relationships while protecting one’s legacy.

👉Join Jay’s Business Legal Tips group: http://businesslegaltips.com
👉Discover How to Avoid the 3 Big Costly Legal Mistakes Most Online Entrepreneurs Make: https://proscalelegal.com/gift

Allison’s Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email


Episode Timeline:
00:00 The Invisible Role You’ve Been Carrying
03:58 What Being “Second Gen” Really Means
06:08 Family Expectations vs Your Life
12:22 Boundaries Without Guilt
14:59 The Real Cost of Keeping the Peace
16:41 How This Quietly Affects You
22:35 Why Boundaries Strengthen Relationships
25:10 What Happens When You Don’t Set Boundaries
33:05 What’s Really Under the Conflict
34:36 Support for Adults with Immigrant Parents

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/14]]> 2215 false 14 full <![CDATA[Let Go to Let In: Why Letting Go Feels Hard For Adults with Immigrant Parents]]> fbx/f5ff0b2a-ea84-11f0-8494-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 06 Jan 2026 00:30:00 -0800 Ep. 15: It’s Not Just Stuff: Why Letting Go Feels So Hard featuring Dr. Christine Li, Procrastination Coach and Clinical PsychologistLike this conversation?&nbsp;Join my exclusive email community for adults with immigrant parents:&nbsp;https://heyallisonly.com/emailFeatured Guest:Dr. Christine Li, Procrastination Coach and Clinical PsychologistFreebie: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/clutter&nbsp;Website: https://procrastinationcoach.com&nbsp;Instagram: @procrastinationcoach&nbsp;TikTok: @procrastinationcoach&nbsp;Podcast: Make Time For SuccessIn this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, Allison Ly is joined by Dr. Christine Li for a conversation that goes deeper than productivity tips or mindset hacks.We explore how cultural expectations, scarcity, and responsibility shape the way many second-generation adults relate to time, clutter, and pressure.And how having and carrying too much for too long can quietly drain your energy, focus, and joy.This episode isn’t about working harder or becoming more disciplined.It’s about understanding the emotional patterns behind stress and overwhelm, especially for adults raised in immigrant households.We talk about:&nbsp;• Why “doing things differently” can bring guilt&nbsp;• How family dynamics affect procrastination and burnout&nbsp;• What it really means to stop disappointing yourself&nbsp;• And how awareness can shift your relationship with responsibility without abandoning your familyWe dive into the importance of embracing positive aspects of Asian culture, managing stress and clutter, and overcoming procrastination.&nbsp;Dr. Li shares her accidental journey into clinical psychology, her past struggles with procrastination, and tips for adults with immigrant parents to navigate family expectations while staying true to themselves.&nbsp;Learn how to start decluttering and reprogram your mindset for success.&nbsp;More From Allison Ly -&nbsp; Free Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet&nbsp;3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start&nbsp;Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource&nbsp;Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:00:00 Intro: Reprogramming Your Thoughts00:42 Meet Dr. Christine Li: Procrastination Coach, Clinical Psychologist03:23 Family Expectations vs Personal Growth as an Adult with Immigrant Parents07:46 Becoming a Clinical Psychologist Outside Traditional Career Paths09:48 Procrastination, Stress, and Overwhelm in Second-Generation Adults20:24 Decluttering, Scarcity Mindset, and Emotional Wellbeing29:12 Letting Go of Guilt, Responsibility, and Old Family Patterns31:25 How to Continue the WorkShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/15 Ep. 15: It’s Not Just Stuff: Why Letting Go Feels So Hard featuring Dr. Christine Li, Procrastination Coach and Clinical Psychologist

Like this conversation? 
Join my exclusive email community for adults with immigrant parents: 
https://heyallisonly.com/email

Featured Guest:
Dr. Christine Li, Procrastination Coach and Clinical Psychologist

Freebie: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/clutter 
Website: https://procrastinationcoach.com 
Instagram: @procrastinationcoach 
TikTok: @procrastinationcoach 
Podcast: Make Time For Success

In this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, Allison Ly is joined by Dr. Christine Li for a conversation that goes deeper than productivity tips or mindset hacks.

We explore how cultural expectations, scarcity, and responsibility shape the way many second-generation adults relate to time, clutter, and pressure.

And how having and carrying too much for too long can quietly drain your energy, focus, and joy.

This episode isn’t about working harder or becoming more disciplined.

It’s about understanding the emotional patterns behind stress and overwhelm, especially for adults raised in immigrant households.

We talk about:
 • Why “doing things differently” can bring guilt
 • How family dynamics affect procrastination and burnout
 • What it really means to stop disappointing yourself
 • And how awareness can shift your relationship with responsibility without abandoning your family

We dive into the importance of embracing positive aspects of Asian culture, managing stress and clutter, and overcoming procrastination. 

Dr. Li shares her accidental journey into clinical psychology, her past struggles with procrastination, and tips for adults with immigrant parents to navigate family expectations while staying true to themselves. 

Learn how to start decluttering and reprogram your mindset for success. 

More From Allison Ly -  Free Resources:

Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Intro: Reprogramming Your Thoughts
00:42 Meet Dr. Christine Li: Procrastination Coach, Clinical Psychologist
03:23 Family Expectations vs Personal Growth as an Adult with Immigrant Parents
07:46 Becoming a Clinical Psychologist Outside Traditional Career Paths
09:48 Procrastination, Stress, and Overwhelm in Second-Generation Adults
20:24 Decluttering, Scarcity Mindset, and Emotional Wellbeing
29:12 Letting Go of Guilt, Responsibility, and Old Family Patterns
31:25 How to Continue the Work

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/15]]> 1992 false 15 full <![CDATA[Before I Lose It (The First Step To Stop the Overwhelm)]]> fbx/e3c9336e-f5c3-11f0-8894-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 20 Jan 2026 00:30:00 -0800 The First Step To Stop the OverwhelmEp. 16: When You Feel Yourself Getting Overwhelmed, Do This➡️ Join my Free Training: Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your immigrant parents without people pleasing &amp; spiraling in guilthttps://heyallisonly.com/secret** I can't find that reel I was talking about - sorry!&nbsp;DM @heyallisonly the reel if you know what I'm talking about. Thanks in advance!Ep. 16: Before You Lose itSometimes it isn’t about setting boundaries perfectly or having the right script ready.And it’s not about fixing anyone or pushing through harder.It’s about noticing when your body is overloaded.And then doing something about it.&nbsp;The “doing” I am talking about is different than what you think that will actually help you show up better.I talk about this and more:• Ways overstimulation can build• How perfectionism and urgency quietly add pressure• Why taking space doesn’t mean you don’t careIf you’ve ever felt overstimulated, tense, or disconnected while surrounded by people you love, this episode is for you.More From Allison Ly – Free Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries:https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones:https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resourceGet my weekly emails with actionable tips, tools, and relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents:https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:01:00 How Perfectionism Adds to Stress03:49 What to Do When Overwhelm Kicks In07:40 Calm Down with This11:34 Check-ins11:59 Free Training for Adults with Immigrant ParentsShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/16 The First Step To Stop the Overwhelm

Ep. 16: When You Feel Yourself Getting Overwhelmed, Do This

➡️ Join my Free Training: Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your immigrant parents without people pleasing & spiraling in guilt

https://heyallisonly.com/secret

** I can't find that reel I was talking about - sorry! DM @heyallisonly the reel if you know what I'm talking about. Thanks in advance!

Ep. 16: Before You Lose it
Sometimes it isn’t about setting boundaries perfectly or having the right script ready.
And it’s not about fixing anyone or pushing through harder.
It’s about noticing when your body is overloaded.
And then doing something about it. 
The “doing” I am talking about is different than what you think that will actually help you show up better.
I talk about this and more:
• Ways overstimulation can build
• How perfectionism and urgency quietly add pressure
• Why taking space doesn’t mean you don’t care

If you’ve ever felt overstimulated, tense, or disconnected while surrounded by people you love, this episode is for you.

More From Allison Ly – Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
Get my weekly emails with actionable tips, tools, and relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents:
https://heyallisonly.com/email

Episode Timeline:
01:00 How Perfectionism Adds to Stress
03:49 What to Do When Overwhelm Kicks In
07:40 Calm Down with This
11:34 Check-ins
11:59 Free Training for Adults with Immigrant Parents

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/16]]> 785 false 16 full <![CDATA[Stop Feeling Like a Bad Daughter: From Obligation to Choice, Relearning How to Show Up]]> fbx/afd0b836-00de-11f1-8291-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 03 Feb 2026 00:59:45 -0800 Ep. 17: Stop Feeling Like a “Bad Daughter”&nbsp;From Obligation to Choice: Relearning How to Show Up with Immigrant ParentsJoin my Free Training: Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your immigrant parents without people pleasing &amp; spiraling in guilt➡️ https://heyallisonly.com/secretI shared my story as a daughter of immigrant parents and why this work around guilt, people pleasing, and emotional self-care matters so deeply.I talk about the invisible emotional weight many adults with immigrant parents carry, the pressure to always show up, and how guilt and negative self-talk can quietly drive our choices without us even realizing it.This episode explores:- Why small moments with immigrant parents can feel unexpectedly heavy- What happens when you force yourself to show up when you’re already depleted- Why self-care isn’t selfish, especially in immigrant families- How learning emotional regulation skills can help you feel better sooner- The importance of repair- Why boundaries don’t mean you love your parents lessThis episode is for adults with immigrant parents who:- Feel stuck between caring for themselves and caring for family- Struggle with guilt, resentment, or people pleasing- Want healthier relationships without cutting ties- Are tired of feeling emotionally exhausted after family interactionsYou don’t have to choose between yourself and your parents.There are more options than you think.Join my Free Training to learn more about your optionsAnd also learn practical tools to help you stop spiraling in guilt and start feeling more emotionally secure with your immigrant parents.👉 Sign up here: https://heyallisonly.com/secret📅 February 26, 2026 (or visit the link for the next available training)More From Allison Ly – Free Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries:https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones:https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resourceGet my weekly emails with actionable tips, tools, and relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents:https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:0:30 - Why This Work Matters1:00 - The Immigrant Parent Experience2:00 - How I Got My Time Back3:30 - Real Example: Today's Letter7:30 - You Have the Power to Feel Better8:30 - Moving Out13:00 - Breaking the Autopilot Pattern15:00 - Join us Feb 26, 2026Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/17 Ep. 17: Stop Feeling Like a “Bad Daughter” 

From Obligation to Choice: Relearning How to Show Up with Immigrant Parents

Join my Free Training: Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your immigrant parents without people pleasing & spiraling in guilt

➡️ https://heyallisonly.com/secret

I shared my story as a daughter of immigrant parents and why this work around guilt, people pleasing, and emotional self-care matters so deeply.

I talk about the invisible emotional weight many adults with immigrant parents carry, the pressure to always show up, and how guilt and negative self-talk can quietly drive our choices without us even realizing it.

This episode explores:

- Why small moments with immigrant parents can feel unexpectedly heavy
- What happens when you force yourself to show up when you’re already depleted
- Why self-care isn’t selfish, especially in immigrant families
- How learning emotional regulation skills can help you feel better sooner
- The importance of repair
- Why boundaries don’t mean you love your parents less

This episode is for adults with immigrant parents who:

- Feel stuck between caring for themselves and caring for family
- Struggle with guilt, resentment, or people pleasing
- Want healthier relationships without cutting ties
- Are tired of feeling emotionally exhausted after family interactions

You don’t have to choose between yourself and your parents.

There are more options than you think.

Join my Free Training to learn more about your options
And also learn practical tools to help you stop spiraling in guilt and start feeling more emotionally secure with your immigrant parents.

👉 Sign up here: https://heyallisonly.com/secret

📅 February 26, 2026 (or visit the link for the next available training)

More From Allison Ly – Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource

Get my weekly emails with actionable tips, tools, and relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents:
https://heyallisonly.com/email

Episode Timeline:
0:30 - Why This Work Matters
1:00 - The Immigrant Parent Experience
2:00 - How I Got My Time Back
3:30 - Real Example: Today's Letter
7:30 - You Have the Power to Feel Better
8:30 - Moving Out
13:00 - Breaking the Autopilot Pattern
15:00 - Join us Feb 26, 2026

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/17

]]> 1061 false 17 full <![CDATA[Raising Bilingual Kids Without Pressure and Guilt as a Second-Generation Parent, with Sophie Tran from Mommy and Me Vietnamese]]> fbx/815b2ed6-0be3-11f1-9697-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 17 Feb 2026 01:35:51 -0800 Adults with immigrant parents and millennial parents raising bilingual kids: Vietnamese language learning, heritage culture, boundary setting, and emotional regulation without forcing it or losing yourself.Featured Guest:Sophie Tran, Founder of Mommy &amp; Me VietnameseMommy and Me Vietnamese:&nbsp; https://www.youtube.com/@TheHeTreTV&nbsp;Instagram: @mommyandmevietnameseEp 18: Millennial Parents: Raising Bilingual Kids Without PressureFeaturing Sophie Tran, Founder of Mommy &amp; Me Vietnamese📌 Join my Free Training: Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your immigrant parents without people pleasing &amp; spiraling in guilt➡️ https://heyallisonly.com/secretWhat if learning Vietnamese (or any heritage language) didn’t have to come with pressure, guilt, or feeling like you’re failing your kid?In this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, I’m joined by Sophie Tran, founder of Mommy and Me Vietnamese (and yes, the songs will get stuck in your head in a good way).We talk about the emotional layers underneath “passing down culture” for millennial parents and adults with immigrant parents. Because it’s not just language. It’s identity, belonging, healing, and the very real reality of motherhood, time, and unrealistic expectations.In this conversation, we get into:- How to teach Vietnamese in a way that feels fun, gentle, and consistent- What happens when culture is tied to shame, criticism, or survival mode- Why many of us grew up with only “happy” and “sad” (and how that impacts emotional health)- Boundaries in immigrant families, family roles, and staying connected without abandoning yourself-How we can separate our identity from how our children doMore From Allison Ly -&nbsp; Free Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet&nbsp;3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start&nbsp;Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource&nbsp;Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:0:00 – Meet Sophie Tran, founder of Mommy and Me Vietnamese1:38 – Vietnamese language legacy: Thế Hệ Trẻ and bilingual education for second-generation kids13:00 – Millennial parents reclaiming Vietnamese identity18:40 – Setting boundaries with immigrant parents without confrontation26:00 – Teaching emotions in Vietnamese: emotional intelligence in bilingual families29:00 – Representation matters: Vietnamese dolls, books, and cultural representation39:00 – Realistic expectations in heritage language learning (why forcing Vietnamese backfires)Links mentioned:Red Episode:&nbsp; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QKQ0gryys2E&amp;t=1sLove to Sing Books: https://lovetosingbooks.com&nbsp;Joey Dolls: https://joeydolls.com/&nbsp;Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/18Follow and subscribe for more:&nbsp;▶️ YouTube: @heyallisonly📸 Instagram: @heyallisonly🎵 TikTok: @heyallisonly Adults with immigrant parents and millennial parents raising bilingual kids: Vietnamese language learning, heritage culture, boundary setting, and emotional regulation without forcing it or losing yourself.

Featured Guest:
Sophie Tran, Founder of Mommy & Me Vietnamese
Mommy and Me Vietnamese:  https://www.youtube.com/@TheHeTreTV 
Instagram: @mommyandmevietnamese

Ep 18: Millennial Parents: Raising Bilingual Kids Without Pressure
Featuring Sophie Tran, Founder of Mommy & Me Vietnamese

📌 Join my Free Training: Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your immigrant parents without people pleasing & spiraling in guilt
➡️ https://heyallisonly.com/secret

What if learning Vietnamese (or any heritage language) didn’t have to come with pressure, guilt, or feeling like you’re failing your kid?

In this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, I’m joined by Sophie Tran, founder of Mommy and Me Vietnamese (and yes, the songs will get stuck in your head in a good way).

We talk about the emotional layers underneath “passing down culture” for millennial parents and adults with immigrant parents. Because it’s not just language. It’s identity, belonging, healing, and the very real reality of motherhood, time, and unrealistic expectations.

In this conversation, we get into:
- How to teach Vietnamese in a way that feels fun, gentle, and consistent
- What happens when culture is tied to shame, criticism, or survival mode
- Why many of us grew up with only “happy” and “sad” (and how that impacts emotional health)
- Boundaries in immigrant families, family roles, and staying connected without abandoning yourself
-How we can separate our identity from how our children do


More From Allison Ly -  Free Resources:

Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email


Episode Timeline:
0:00 – Meet Sophie Tran, founder of Mommy and Me Vietnamese
1:38 – Vietnamese language legacy: Thế Hệ Trẻ and bilingual education for second-generation kids
13:00 – Millennial parents reclaiming Vietnamese identity
18:40 – Setting boundaries with immigrant parents without confrontation
26:00 – Teaching emotions in Vietnamese: emotional intelligence in bilingual families
29:00 – Representation matters: Vietnamese dolls, books, and cultural representation
39:00 – Realistic expectations in heritage language learning (why forcing Vietnamese backfires)

Links mentioned:
Red Episode:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QKQ0gryys2E&t=1s
Love to Sing Books: https://lovetosingbooks.com 
Joey Dolls: https://joeydolls.com/ 

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/18

Follow and subscribe for more: 
▶️ YouTube: @heyallisonly
📸 Instagram: @heyallisonly
🎵 TikTok: @heyallisonly
]]> 3108 false 18 full <![CDATA[The Secret to Stopping the People Pleasing Patterns and Guilt Spiral]]> fbx/46985d78-16c4-11f1-a16e-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 03 Mar 2026 00:30:00 -0800 Have Immigrant Parents You Want to Support While Living Your Life?Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your parents without people pleasing &amp; spiraling in guilt&nbsp;Spend time with your parents feeling more at peace and calm WITHOUT needing them to change!Imagine that You Can:&nbsp;Repay and support your loved ones WHILE supporting yourself.&nbsp;Setting boundaries without spiraling in guilt&nbsp;Going after your goals while still supporting your parents with more peace&nbsp;Feeling confident in your choices Imagine breaking free from negative self-talk&nbsp;Break generational cycles without abandoning your immigrant family&nbsp;Break generational cycles without abandoning you&nbsp;Set those boundaries, release some of that guilt, stop spiraling in negative self talk so that you can you support your loved ones and improve relationships without sacrificing your own needs.&nbsp;INTRODUCING: Unshaken Gen Community&nbsp;&nbsp;➡️ JOIN HERE: https://heyallisonly.com/UGC Have Immigrant Parents You Want to Support While Living Your Life?

Discover the secret to feeling more emotionally secure when spending time with your parents without people pleasing & spiraling in guilt 

Spend time with your parents feeling more at peace and calm WITHOUT needing them to change!

Imagine that You Can: 

Repay and support your loved ones WHILE supporting yourself. 
Setting boundaries without spiraling in guilt 
Going after your goals while still supporting your parents with more peace 
Feeling confident in your choices Imagine breaking free from negative self-talk 
Break generational cycles without abandoning your immigrant family 
Break generational cycles without abandoning you 

Set those boundaries, release some of that guilt, stop spiraling in negative self talk so that you can you support your loved ones and improve relationships without sacrificing your own needs. 

INTRODUCING: Unshaken Gen Community 

 ➡️ JOIN HERE: https://heyallisonly.com/UGC

]]> 4218 false 19 full <![CDATA[The Immigrant Stories That Shape You (Even If No One Told Them) featuring Jaime Jo Hoang, Author]]> fbx/c2ba6052-21ca-11f1-84b7-ba5fa9561315 https://www.heyallisonly.com/ Tue, 17 Mar 2026 00:30:00 -0700 Ep 19: The Immigrant Stories That Shape You (Even If No One Told Them)Featured Guest:Jamie Jo Hoang, Authorwww.heyjamie.comInstagram: @heyjamiereadsLike this conversation?&nbsp;Join my exclusive email community for adults with immigrant parents:&nbsp;https://heyallisonly.com/emailWhat if you could get some closure, some healing from your parent’s past? Even if they don’t tell you?&nbsp;That’s what reading Jaime Jo Hoang’s books (My Mother the Mermaid Chaser and My Father the Panda Killer) did for me.Author Jamie Jo Hoang joins me for a thoughtful conversation about identity, family, generational trauma, boundaries, and what it can look like to approach our parents and ourselves with more compassion.&nbsp;This conversation touches on the unspoken parts of growing up in an immigrant family, why some stories feel hard to face, and how we can start to create a different type of understanding and relationship.&nbsp;We talk about:- Growing up with family histories that were never fully explained- Why stories can become powerful conversation starters across generations- The complexity of boundaries in immigrant families- What it means to hold compassion without dismissing your own experience- Identity, healing, sibling relationships, and generational patterns- Jamie’s books My Father, the Panda Killer and My Mother, the Mermaid ChaserAbout Jaime:Jamie Jo Hoang is the daughter of Vietnamese refugees. She grew up in Orange County, CA—not the rich part. She is the author of MY MOTHER, THE MERMAID CHASER, MY FATHER, THE PANDA KILLER and BLUE SUN, YELLOW SKY. Her work has also appeared in TIME, SALON and TinyBuddha.More From Allison Ly -&nbsp; Free Resources:Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet&nbsp;3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start&nbsp;Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource&nbsp;Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/emailEpisode Timeline:0:28 – Meet Jaime Jo Hoang, Author1:00 - Writing About Immigrant Family Trauma4:30 - What Her Parents Did When They Found Out She Wrote a Book14:50 - How to Set Boundaries With Immigrant Parents Without Guilt18:50 - Breaking Generational Trauma: Every Generation Has Its Task25:36 - A Question About Immigrant Guilt40:33 - Unspoken Topics Around War44:26 - Why Self-Compassion Is Harder48:15 - Which Book to Read First: Mermaid Chaser vs Panda KillerPodcast Episode Mentioned:InfatuAsian Podcast&nbsp;Ep 194 Author Jamie Jo Hoang on Writing the Stories Our Vietnamese Parents Never Tell&nbsp;https://open.spotify.com/episode/6FiSUH5IdtxTIagcm44HCE?si=b6b3df3479b246a6Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/19Follow and subscribe for more:&nbsp;▶️ YouTube: @heyallisonly📸 Instagram: @heyallisonly🎵 TikTok: @heyallisonly Ep 19: The Immigrant Stories That Shape You (Even If No One Told Them)

Featured Guest:
Jamie Jo Hoang, Author
www.heyjamie.com
Instagram: @heyjamiereads

Like this conversation? 
Join my exclusive email community for adults with immigrant parents: 
https://heyallisonly.com/email

What if you could get some closure, some healing from your parent’s past? Even if they don’t tell you? 

That’s what reading Jaime Jo Hoang’s books (My Mother the Mermaid Chaser and My Father the Panda Killer) did for me.

Author Jamie Jo Hoang joins me for a thoughtful conversation about identity, family, generational trauma, boundaries, and what it can look like to approach our parents and ourselves with more compassion. 

This conversation touches on the unspoken parts of growing up in an immigrant family, why some stories feel hard to face, and how we can start to create a different type of understanding and relationship. 

We talk about:
- Growing up with family histories that were never fully explained
- Why stories can become powerful conversation starters across generations
- The complexity of boundaries in immigrant families
- What it means to hold compassion without dismissing your own experience
- Identity, healing, sibling relationships, and generational patterns
- Jamie’s books My Father, the Panda Killer and My Mother, the Mermaid Chaser

About Jaime:
Jamie Jo Hoang is the daughter of Vietnamese refugees. She grew up in Orange County, CA—not the rich part. She is the author of MY MOTHER, THE MERMAID CHASER, MY FATHER, THE PANDA KILLER and BLUE SUN, YELLOW SKY. Her work has also appeared in TIME, SALON and TinyBuddha.

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Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

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Episode Timeline:
0:28 – Meet Jaime Jo Hoang, Author
1:00 - Writing About Immigrant Family Trauma
4:30 - What Her Parents Did When They Found Out She Wrote a Book
14:50 - How to Set Boundaries With Immigrant Parents Without Guilt
18:50 - Breaking Generational Trauma: Every Generation Has Its Task
25:36 - A Question About Immigrant Guilt
40:33 - Unspoken Topics Around War
44:26 - Why Self-Compassion Is Harder
48:15 - Which Book to Read First: Mermaid Chaser vs Panda Killer

Podcast Episode Mentioned:
InfatuAsian Podcast 
Ep 194 Author Jamie Jo Hoang on Writing the Stories Our Vietnamese Parents Never Tell 
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6FiSUH5IdtxTIagcm44HCE?si=b6b3df3479b246a6

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Join my exclusive email community for adults with immigrant parents: 
As adults with immigrant parents, you’re probably used to having so much responsibility, pressure, and thinking about what you should be doing instead of thinking about you.

I share 5 reminders that you may benefit from.

Because the truth is… for a lot of us as adults with immigrant parents, childhood wasn’t always simple.

There was responsibility.

Pressure.

Sometimes even roles we took on before we were ready.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in responsibility, guilt, or pressure… this is a conversation that might shift something for you.

If this resonates, come join my email community for more conversations like this:
https://heyallisonly.com/email

And if you haven’t already, subscribe to Empowered with Immigrant Parents for more tools, stories, and mindset shifts to help you care for your family without losing yourself.

__________

More From Allison Ly -  Free Resources:

Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email


Episode Timeline:
0:00 - The one truth about growing up with immigrant parents no one talks about
0:31 - Why these 5 childhood lessons hit different as an adult
3:00 - Most adults have forget this
6:43 - The one feeling we all avoid
8:10 - How I see failure
10:57 - Why you're being too hard on yourself 
13:19 - The lost childhood skill that's holding you back



Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/20


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